Counselling lesbian couples: requests for donor insemination on social grounds

Abstract Fertility centres are increasingly involved in dealing with requests from lesbian couples for donor insemination (DI). Data were collected on 95 Belgian lesbian couples who applied for DI. The majority of couples were well integrated in a social environment (family, friends and work) that consisted mainly of heterosexuals. They tended to be open about their homosexuality and most couples considered the social environment to be tolerant towards their homosexual orientation. Couples who considered alternatives to DI would have liked to have had more information on the donor and were more inclined to introduce a ‘godfather' who would take special interest in the child. Couples who considered DI to be the best solution considered the absence of a father to be less of a problem for the child and wished to have no information at all as regards the donor. Approximately half the couples considered their family a two-mother unit. For the other couples, the family unit consisted of a mother and her partner who shared parental responsibility for the child equally. The issues that are considered important to cope with and on which lesbian couples should be counselled are presented in the discussion.